Motherhood can often be a journey filled with joy, but it can also bring moments of loneliness and isolation. As we navigate the ups and downs of parenting, having a support system is essential, and that’s where godly friends come in.
These are the friends who uplift us, share in our faith, and encourage us in our role as mothers.
But forming these meaningful connections with Christian Mom Friends isn’t always easy. In this post, we’ll explore practical steps to help you find and nurture those precious relationships with godly friends who will walk alongside you in your motherhood journey.
Whether you’re a new mom or have been in the game for a while, the quest for Christ-centered relationships grounded in faith is worth pursuing.
Let’s discover how to build a circle of godly friends who enrich our lives and strengthen our bonds with God.
What is a Godly Friend or Friendship?
Finding a Godly friend or making godly friendships is not about being perfect, never sinning, or having life figured out. Instead, a godly friendship is one that understands your life, even if it’s chaotic, but always pushes your focus on what matters most.
A Godly friend is one who directs you back to God or is confident enough to tell you when something is not biblical. But above all, a friend who loves you and your family.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three stands is not quickly broken.”
Why Does Having a Godly Friend Matter?
Having a Godly friend matters because God saw how alone Adam was and said, “Yahweh God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18
We were never meant to coast life alone. It is not good. Even research says that loneliness is like smoking a pack of cigarettes every day.
How to Make Godly Friends (Especially as a mom)
Pray First
Only Our Heavenly Father knows the type of friends you need. Godly friends who will encourage you in motherhood AND in your relationship with the Lord.
It might take a few years and many tries for you to make a solid friend in Christ, but God will hear your earnest prayer and provide you with a godly friend.
Put Yourself in Godly Environments
One of the worst things you can do is expect a friend to come knocking on your door. You need to expose yourself to situations where you can find a Godly friend.
A Godly friend can be found at your local church, a bible study group, or, honestly, at the park.
But your chances are higher when you’re surrounded by Godly people in the first place.
Start Conversations With a Purpose
If you’re generally an awkward person or very shy, learn ways to work through that. There are many videos on how to become more confident. An individual who can talk to the wall if necessary.
If you feel like you struggle to make conversations or are an awkward person, watch this video featuring Vanessa Van Edwards on the Diary of a CEO.
Ask About Them, Not Yourself
Everyone loves talking about themselves; mostly, they like talking about their children. Keep the conversation focused on them. If there’s something relatable, say it, but for now keep the focus on them.
If it’s another mom looking for a mom friend, the conversation will flow naturally. There are just friendships that are meant to be. There is no serious effort to continue the conversations.
Look For Their Fruits
Looking for another Christian mom friend may seem impossible, like digging through a haystack for the needle. But once it is found, look for its fruits.
Jesus says that a good tree produces good fruit.
Learn Basic Human Cues
You know those people who keep talking on and on, and you keep responding with ‘mm-hmm,’ ‘wow,’ ‘yes,’ ‘yeah,’ but they don’t get the memo?
Learn when the conversation is over. Quit conversing with someone who does not want to be in the conversation.
Some people don’t want to talk, and that’s fine. Some people aren’t looking for friends, so they couldn’t care less about talking to anyone else. That is also fine.
What Type of Godly Friends Are You Looking For?
The Bible gives us solid advice on the type of friends we should surround ourselves with.
Proverbs 12:26 “The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray.“
Not Everyone is Meant to Be Your Friend
Keep in mind that not everyone is meant to be your friend. There is always a type of friend with whom you will click, and everything flows; nothing has to be forced.
How to Be a Godly Friend?
Are You a Godly Friend?
It is easy to look at others and see clearly what their fruits are, but just as you look at what type of friends someone else is, examine yourself and see if you are also a Godly friend.
Are you reliable? Would you be friends with yourself?
Are You Producing Good Fruits?
Matthew 7:17-20 “Every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit… by their fruit you will recognize them.”
A solid friend in Christ is one who, above all, puts God in the center of their life. Now, this doesn’t mean they are perfect, don’t sin, or have life figured out. It’s someone who, no matter what their circumstances are they still seeks God and longs to follow Jesus Christ so closely.
These are the fruits of the spirit…
Galatians 5:22-23 “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.“
Finding Godly Friends
Finding godly friends as a mom may take time, intention, and a little courage, but it is always worth the effort. The right friendships, rooted in Christ, strengthened by prayer, and marked by genuine love, will lift you up in seasons of loneliness, challenge you to grow, and point you back to Jesus when motherhood feels overwhelming
