This blog post is all about how being a mom is hard!!
Motherhood is already one of the most challenging jobs, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. But sometimes, without even realizing it, we make it more complicated than it has to be. As Christian moms, we need to pause and ask: Are we relying on God’s truth, as revealed in the Bible, or on worldly trends and popular advice?
Whether you’re navigating the joys and challenges of motherhood with one child or a handful, remember, you’re not alone. Motherhood will test your patience, gentleness, kindness, self-control, and almost all of your emotions, dare I say?
There may be days when you sit down and think
What. Have. I. done?
Turns out it is not the perfect pinterest picture or instagram reel.
Simple things like going out used to be a piece of cake, but now it takes you a minimum of 15 to 30 minutes to get out of the house on a good day. Cooking dinner was relaxing, but now you have children melting down, as if you hadn’t just fed them an hour ago.
Next thing you know, you’re asking yourself how long until bedtime, only to realize your day just started 2 hours ago. I GET IT. I have been there but you don’t have to be stuck there.
Motherhood is HARD. But we make it HARDER. Here’s how.
Why Does Motherhood Feel So Overwhelming? (Christian Perspective)
Are You Building Your Motherhood on Biblical Truth or Worldly Advice?
The world doesn’t even know how to discipline a child correctly, but God does. The world’s parenting advice changes by the minute, but God’s truth is eternal. The worldly advice to mothers changes with every generation, yet the advice God has given to mothers remains unchanged.
If you start relying on the world for how you live your life, raise your children, teach and care for them, you will feel like you’re holding the steering wheel of a ship with no rudder. Your sense of direction is missing because the world doesn’t even know what it wants; it lives in a state of confusion.
God’s Word never changes. When you turn to God’s Word, even for the simplest things, such as how to be a good mother, it will provide a list of the fruits of the Spirit, along with advice on caring for your little ones and your home. This eternal truth is a stable foundation for your journey in motherhood.
Having Inconsistent Rules/Boundaries
Children need rules and boundaries. They need to know that there is a limit to their actions.
Inconsistent rules or boundaries can lead to kids who are annoying to be around, lawless, disrespectful, and rebellious.
Being inconsistent makes your chaotic days WAY more chaotic. In the sense that the boundary that you’re loosely holding may make the kids test it a little harder to see if they can get away with it.
Stop Feeling Like You Must Entertain Your Kids All Day – Here’s Why
You will go crazy if you think you need to entertain your kids 24/7.
Social media often pressures moms to create endless sensory bins, activities, and outings for their children. But constantly entertaining your kids isn’t sustainable or necessary.
That will drive a mother crazy, to put it mildly. It is easy for many to say, ‘Sit down and play with your children.’ Yes, there is a time for that, but there are also the never-ending chores, errands, cooking, appointments —you name it.
Children will be fine entertaining themselves throughout the day. It is also beneficial for them. They will come up with their own play, learn how to play with each other, and it teaches them independence.
Busy vs. Productive Moms: What’s the Difference?
Being busy instead of productive will make being a mom really hard.
Being busy means bouncing from one task to another without finishing anything. Productivity means being intentional in doing one thing well before moving to the next.
You end the day feeling exhausted and wonder why, since everything you planned on getting done only gets halfway done.
One of the best ways to address this is by forcing yourself to complete one task. When your brain tries to direct you to something else that needs finishing, complete the task at hand and then proceed to the next.
Do My Kids Have Too Many Toys?
If you’re constantly overwhelmed by the toy mess, it’s time to declutter. Removing excess toys can create a more peaceful environment, relieving you of unnecessary stress and overwhelm.
On average, children have around 160 toys, which is 150 toys too many.
Research also suggests that children with fewer toys tend to play better and for more extended periods than those with many toys. If you’re not spending enough time with your children, you may be spending too much time cleaning or picking up too many toys.
Rather than spending hours cleaning toy clutter, simplify. Fewer toys mean more peace and more time to truly connect.
Here’s the interesting article regarding toys!
When Does Motherhood Get Easier?
There are countless threads on the internet responding to the infamous question, “When does it get easier?”
There are seasons in life where some things are harder and others are easier.
But expecting it to get completely easier, where you don’t have to dedicate your time and effort to helping them become capable human beings, is probably not going to happen.
Instead of worrying about the future, focus on the present moment. By living in the present, you can reduce anxiety and fully engage in the joys and challenges of motherhood.
What Do I do When There is an Opportunity to Rest?
Getting the opportunity to rest is not something that comes frequently, but not taking the time to sleep when you do have it will be a massive disservice to yourself.
If your children go to bed at a decent time, take advantage of catching up on rest. Instead of scrolling on your phone, take care of yourself. Take a warm shower and go to bed.
Resting will make you a better mother than taking advantage of the rare occasions where you can rest.
Being a Mom is Hard
Being a mom is hard, I get it! But truthfully, sometimes we make it hard. Instead of always blaming the little ones for our hardships, stress, and anger, let’s turn the mirror around and intentionally examine what we are doing and how we are parenting.
What are you doing that is making your motherhood harder?
